Chance Chat #16: Say Yes…or NOT!

Happy Sunday friends! I’m feeling a little feisty, so today I’m disagreeing with a quote.

say yes tina fey quoteYou cannot say “yes” to everyone. Everyone has a max out, and while those limits may be different, you cannot be all things to all people. With all the changes going on in my life right now I’ve had to scale back on commitments. I cannot have every week day scheduled as I need to allow time to travel for interviews, and job searching in itself is something that takes time.

Say No. Say “I’d Rather Not” If something is bringing you anxiety or stress or getting in the way of a good time, let it go. Be polite and honor your commitments, but guard your time. It’s precious. We each get 24 hours in the day, and we all have different needs and priorities. Lack of planning on their part, does not automatically constitute an emergency for you.

Do you guard your time? Or are you a people pleaser who says “YES” even when your heart means “no”?

6 thoughts on “Chance Chat #16: Say Yes…or NOT!

  1. Great post. The more kids I’ve had, the better I’ve gotten at saying no. I cannot spread myself so thin that I am useless to everyone. Say yes to what matters most.

    • Exactly! While I don’t have kids, I do have a wide range of commitments, and my family time is important. I will say no to things if I already have a family dinner planned.

  2. I’ve gotten much better the past few years about saying “no” to things that do not line up with my values or do not reflect how I want to spend my time. I still struggle with it when it comes to certain things or certain people though.

    One way I’ve chosen to look at it: Saying no to one thing means I’m saying yes to something else.

    • That is very true!!! Do you read yesandyes.org or Sarah Von Bargen.com she writes a lot about that idea, how to say no to things so you can say yes to what is important.

  3. I am with you on disagreeing with that statement. I am kind of bad about saying yes to things out of a sense of obligation or because I don’t want to disappoint the person but then I over-commit and don’t enjoy the stuff I have planned! I am working on figuring out the right number of things to say yes to each week.

    • Nice work! The extra yoga classes I teach are asking for another 6 week session. I gave them one week, and said hopefully I could do another after that. It’s a small town and tight community they don’t need a lot of advance notice, and that way I don’t feel guilty if I have to pull the plug after 3 weeks.

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