Wait. Apologize.

Last week I received an apology. I met someone new and I asked a question, and their response was condescending and rude. I was so shocked by the response that I didn’t have a comeback. But days later I was still upset about what was said to me. A few days later I saw the person again. And not at first opportunity, but before the day was done, the person apologized. They acknowledge that my question was legitimate, and that their response was not.

wait. apologize. I had told a few people the details of the conversation, and how upset I was about the situation. I have a contact who could have discussed it with the person, or I could have let them know after the fact how upset I was. But the person apologized. So I’m glad I didn’t share the ugly details with the world. I can’t quite forgive and forget, but I won’t be holding a grudge.

When someone makes you mad, do you confront them right away? Do you wait for them to apologize?

6 thoughts on “Wait. Apologize.

  1. So sorry you had to deal with that. I usually ask myself if I will still be mad about this later. If the answer is yes, I say something–even to people I know will never apologize. It sucks to deal with at all though.

    • Saying something is definitely the way to go. Although I usually don’t know its bothering me until a couple days later. So its always harder to bring up after the fact.

  2. A friend of mine has done something quite rude and I’m not sure that they realise it. It’s not just to me it’s to other people too so I feel compelled to say something. Its been a few days now and I still haven’t found the right words to confront them.

  3. I am kind of terrible at conflict so unless it’s a good friend, I usually will just try to let it go and avoid interactions with that person. But if it’s a good friend I will try to find a way to tell her that what she said was hurtful because otherwise it’s going to drive a bit of a wedge between us so it’s better to just address it.

  4. I’m awful with confrontation. It takes a lot for me to say something to someone right away – I would have to be SUPER mad and then I’d probably say stuff I didn’t mean. Definitely a struggle. I’m glad you got an apology, though! Those are hard to come by … people do not like admitting they were wrong!

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