Never Say “this” on a Date.

At 28 years old I’ve been on plenty of dates, and had a few established relationships. I assume the men I go out with have as well. However there is one word that makes my skin crawl.


Never ever ever say “we” unless you’re putting the word into context. “We” used to live in Roseville. “We” loved going to the State Fair.

Why? Because I don’t know who “we” is. If you don’t specify that you’re talking about your buddies from college, or your roommate. I’m going to assume it was a past relationship. I’m also going to assume that you aren’t over that past relationship.

Sure I can ask and clarify. But if you meant past relationship, and now I’ve called it out….things get awkward. quick.

I’m already assuming you have an ex girlfriend or two. Maybe an ex-wife. And that is just fine. I have ex-boyfriends. But you and I do not need to be discussing them when we are still getting to know each other. If things go well we will cross that bridge eventually.

Until then, let’s clarify who “we” is.

Have you been on a date where you could tell the other person just wasn’t ready for a new relationship?

Did you call them out on it? and/or

What are your dating turn offs?

4 thoughts on “Never Say “this” on a Date.

  1. Huh, that’s so interesting, but so true! I definitely hang on to the “we” comment and I definitely assume they’re talking about a previous relationship unless they specify it’s someone else. Honestly, I don’t know what my dating pet peeves are anymore … I haven’t really conventionally dated anyone in well over a year. Talking with someone on FaceTime is just not the same. 😉

    • I’m super open to almost anything… (or so I like to think) but i’ve dated someone before who wasn’t over a previous relationship, and it is the worst!

    • Yeah, I had dated someone with an ex-wife, and she came up in conversation every now and then. It was fine, but its the unknown that drives me crazy.

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