Joy: “Irish” fun and Italian “fries”

Somehow I celebrated St. Patrick’s day yesterday? I assumed next weekend would be the time to go out and about. I had friends who planned appropriately and explored the West 7th area of St. Paul on Saturday afternoon. I joined them later and was happy that they were able to score a table at The Liffy.

Our age started to show when we entered one of the many tents, and prompt exited the tent. It was so crowded we decided to head up to Grand Ave where the crowd hadn’t migrated to…yet.

We went to Wild Onion since it is known for fun times and ordered more drinks and food. I ordered Italian fries assuming they were like chili fries, but Italian ingredients. Nope! I got a fast food tray of cheesy breadsticks. Which the majority of is now sitting in my fridge.

The weekend went nothing like I planned. I showed up and went with the flow, and had a good time. Now its snowing and a new week is starting. Unfortunately I’ve got quite a fews that are all pretty high priority, so I’m hoping my body adjusts to the day light savings time change well, because I don’t have time to be operating at less than my best.

Did you start your St. Patrick’s day celebrations? Or are you a strictly the 17th celebrator? Or does the holiday not really affect your calendar?

Still Kickin, a bonus post.

Just when I thought all hope was lost. Things are starting to look up! I happened to score a ticket to Minnebar a conference located at Best Buy coming up in the next few weeks. I led a deal review at work today and received a compliment from someone I thought didn’t like me. And the weekend is almost here!

TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Energy cannot be destroyed, only transformed. You have been a part of many transformations that you are conscious of and many more that you are not. Today, change will occur around you, through you and because of you.

I bought this beer back in October. I think it sincerely was lost in the back of the liquor store because it was released in the summer. I was never lucky enough to find it, until it was supposedly gone.

I promptly bought what the store had in stock, gave some to a friend, and kept the rest for myself. But it never felt right to open. And today I decided not to wait any longer. And its delicious. And I should have never waited. But I like delayed gratification. I like to be sure of something before I commit. Maybe that holds me back from some experiences, but its me. And it works for now.

Homework, with a side of life.

It’s international women’s day. And in the idea of supporting women I hope you’ll allow me to share what’s going on in my life. Its been a tough week or so, month or so, year or so? There have been many good things, but I frequently feel as if I’m trying and fighting and doing my best, and I don’t see the payoff.

The light is almost at the end of the tunnel for my MBA program. My hope is that once it is completed my stress level will reduce. My most recent class has pushed me. To work through muddy waters, and slowly move towards understanding.

I am simultaneously trying to figure out what my next development/work goal should be. I keep reading articles about sharing what you want, naming it, claiming it, and working towards it. The problem is, I’m not sure what that should be. With my limited free time I haven’t been able to research, I can’t necessarily take days/afternoons off to meet for coffee and network. So in the spare moments I do get, I feel as if I’m constantly apologizing or appearing as if I’m unorganized. I think those who truly know me understand that I’m doing my best. But how do I convince strangers?

If anyone knows of a good buzzfeed quiz for discovering your true passion, feel free to send it my way. Also, I’m an ESFJ with strengths of Individualization, Communication, Discipline, Focus, and Significance. (if you want to be reassured that I believe in quizzes beyond buzzfeed’s capabilities).

Joy: home and friends

Happy Sunday. I’m feeling content in a way that I haven’t in a while. It makes me want to move back home. For whatever reason it was a tough week. Nothing significant happened to me, yet I was struggling to find the good. Things started to turn around on Thursday when I had dinner with a friend.

Friday I was in what is usually my element, a conference, where I volunteered as table host and room host. It was a lot of smiling, greeting, facilitating, and hearing inspiring stories from women in leadership. Although instead of inspiring me to move forward, it made me question what I’m doing. I haven’t picked a major business goal to work towards. I’m hoping that the experiences I have, the people I meet, and the education I’ve received will eventually come together in the correct company/job.

traveling art pub

Until then. I go home. To see friends, to run, to feel comfortable. To know that no matter what, these people have my back. They’ve known me for years. We know each other’s parents, partners, extended families. I have no idea what the future holds. But I know that when I need it, home is here for me.

Where do you go when you need to be picked up?

Finding that perfect man.

After multiple requests I am finally going to share a few of the dating stories that my friends have been able to hear in person. Of course names will be changed to protect the innocent (or guilty), and stories go back to last year.

can can wonderland

Fred: We met for a drink, which turned into dinner, which turned into a walk. A great first date. He travels for work, which meant that our next interactions were phone calls on week nights. We finally had our schedules align for a second date, and he wanted to go to Revival. (For those that don’t know, Revival is a restaurant that doesn’t take reservations, and can easily have a 3 hour wait). I would have loved to go, but we arrived at 6:30 pm on a Sunday night, there was no way we were getting seated in the next 3 hours. So we went with plan B and had a nice evening at another restaurant down the road. At the end of the date there was discussions of getting together again…there were a few more phone calls with debating a time that would work, and then nothing was planned.

Mr. Movie: Plans a date for 6 pm, arrives at 6:20. Mentions on the date that he is really just looking to hook up. If only he had told me prior to meeting, we could have both saved the time and energy. I tell him “thanks no thanks” and move on with life. This was in July. In January I receive a text from a number I don’t recognize…guess who. I have to remind him that I still don’t want a “buddy”. He asks to meet for a beer anyways, I’m curious as to what he wants to say. He apologizes for his actions, we chat, and reiterate that I am looking for a relationship, and he is not. We are still talking, but still want different things.

Peter Picture: After 1 date, which was wonderful,  (dinner, post dinner drink, very nice guy) I receive a text the next day. Everyone likes to have contact the next day. Unless its in the form of an unsolicited photo. (I’ll let you imagine what was in that photo). Despite discussion of another date, nothing has materialized. I could look up past the photo, but I won’t look past the claiming to want to meet again, without actually following through.

Mr. Perfect: I haven’t met him yet, I don’t think. Hopefully he’s out doing fun things, spending time with friends and family. I don’t have an exact description of him. But I have hope that he is out there.

Any dating stories to share with me?

Please save me from the “you’ll find him speeches” I’ve heard them. Unless you have an option to suggest, in which case I’m all ears!

Joy: Running Again

Last week I ran 5 times and 1 morning I just was not in the mood, so I went for a 4 mile walk with my mom instead. I wasn’t particularly fast, but I had moments of finding my pace again. I have one week before Garry Bjorklund Half (aka Grandma’s Half) training starts.

Finding the time to add running into my schedule won’t be easy. But its doable. I’m hoping to utilize the gym at work, by running as soon as I’m done with work before I drive home. I think part of why my adjustment back to real life was tough this week was not getting the endorphins I was feeding my body every morning. As much as I would like to run in the morning, I’m not quite ready to get up and run at 5:30 am.

Does your workout routine change depending on the seasons?

With the warmer weather have you been outside more often?

(Or do you live in the area of Minnesota/Wisconsin that ended up getting a snow day on Friday?)

Overwhelmed and readjusting

Sunrise from the bedroom of my room in Mexico…definitely not my room in St. Paul. Adjusting back to real life has not been easy. It has not been fun. Even with a good year end review at work I’m not feeling my best.

I’m hoping that with yoga sculpt Friday and Saturday morning I’ll start to feel more like myself. I’ll get the rest of my apartment cleaned up, the mail read and responded to, and my homework completed. Oh yeah, and I want to have some fun too.

I get that a week of no responsibility is a vacation and not real life, but I’m feeling the weight of responsibility a little harder than I would like to. So now I need to figure out how to adjust life. Shift responsibilities so that I feel good/better/at my best. I’m not quite sure what needs to change, so hopefully as I make tweaks I’ll get a better idea.

What do you change when things don’t seem to be working?

Joy: Travel

Are you sick of hearing about vacation? I wouldn’t blame you. I’ve been all about the sharing. I’m thinking I need to arrange my time and stress differently. While the week wasn’t devoid of stress, the levels are much lower than they had been.

Saturday and Sunday night I struggled to fall asleep. Sunday night was especially frustrating as I tossed and turned knowing I’d need to go to work in the morning. Instead of blogging on Sunday I spent time at my Grandparent’s house and then visited another friend. We went for a walk, watched a movie, and it wasn’t productive for time, but it was fun. Now I managed to almost triple book this Saturday, but I’m picking the 1st commitment and letting the other two slide.

Moving forward I’m going to attempt to stay somewhat above the fray. Notice the beauty, and do what I can to relax myself.

How do you relax when you can’t escape? Any tips and tricks I can steal?

Mazatlan Mexico 2017

Eye twitches are no fun. Last week my eye twitched every day throughout the day. It wasn’t just in the afternoon when I had already put in 6 hours behind a computer monitor. It was right away in the morning, throughout the day, and into the night. My neck was cracking as usual, I was stressed out at school, my jaw started to hurt, vacation couldn’t come soon enough.

And a full vacation is what I got! I flew out on Saturday with my family, our friends joined us that evening, and we’ve had some great days in the sun, plus wonderful evenings. I’ve become less about drinking as many beach side cocktails as possible, and more about relaxing. So far I’ve gone on a run each morning, I’ve done water aerobics twice, attended a cooking class at one of my favorite restaurants, and completed some MBA homework. I had other computer plans, but it appears that hasn’t quite gotten done. Instead I’m maximizing my sun time.

Its hard to believe that we only have 2 days left before we after to pack it up and fly home. I’ve met people who are retired and come here for anywhere from 6 weeks to 6 months. And now that we are no longer timeshare owners I don’t think that will be in the cards for me….but I know that I need to up my retirement savings so I can do something similar!

Do you schedule your vacation time?

Would you ever travel for an extended period of time?

Or just do what sounds good in the moment and figure it out as you go?

Joy: Vacation Edition

I hope Minnesota or whatever state you are in is warm. But….my weather is probably warmer. I haven’t gone on a full week vacation…in a long time. Maybe 2011? Either way I am so excited that I will be here in Mazatlan, Mexico through Saturday.

I was 7 the first time I visited, the Macarena was in full swing, and I danced my little heart out. I played bingo like a good 70 year old retiree, and painted pottery to bring home. All of these things will happen again this week, except for maybe the Macarena, what song are we dancing to these days?

Trips in college were different. More of your typical spring break mentality, but still family focused. I never did the crazy spring break with just 20 somethings and no supervision. This year I’m hoping for good walks and runs, reading for fun and for homework, and delicious drinks and dinners.

What is your vacation style? New place to explore every time? Or relax to the max?